Contacting "The Command"

Hampton Roads is a very military area. Because of this, many legal matters overlap with military matters. With issues like child and spousal support, the military has its own rules UNTIL there is an Order from a civilian court, After that, the court order rules.
Sometimes military spouses feel powerless because they are not receiving support; their ID card has expired or a myriad of other problems exist, and there either is not yet a court order or the servicemember is not complying with the Order or it is something so basic that you should not have to put it in an Order. In those cases, it may be helpful to contact the servicemember's command and politely request assistance. This is particularly true if the servicemember is a young person who may benefit from some mature guidance. The key is to be polite,not abuse the command and not make unreasonable requests. Some commands are more responsive than others, but remember that you are asking for their assistance so how you ask makes a difference.
Also, it is a big mistake to use this as an opportunity to criticize the servicemember or try to hurt his/her career. Their advancement (money) is your advancement. Losing their job costs you too. The temporary thrill of vengeance is hardly ever matched by the loss of insurance coverage and income. So seek help when you need it, but remember to think long-term.